A Really Good Cup of Coffee...

A Really Good Cup of Coffee...

Ashley Ryckman17 comments

This week I have really been feeling the need to talk about self-care. I used to call myself an extrovert. Crowded room of people that I don’t know? Sure, sign me up! Friends dropping by unannounced? Come on in! A career on camera with hundreds of people watching? Absolutely! And honestly, none of that has changed. As I like to say, I LOVE TO PEOPLE!!!


(Some of my amazing girls!)

What has changed is my appreciation and need for alone time. On any given day, I wake up early to get my kids up and ready for school. After they're off, I’ll go to the gym or head right into my office and start answering messages. I’ll pull pieces for a show, go live, and then usually answer more messages or, if Aunt Val forces me, stare at a few spreadsheets until my eyes go crossed. By then it's dinner time and I try to spend some time with my family, have another show, sleep and repeat.


(New Years 2019)

I am almost never alone. Don’t get me wrong, I am so grateful to be able to be so accessible to my family, and I love my team! But sometimes I need a break. A break from the 1000’s of tattles and questions that come from being a mom of six. A break from, was that number 1234 or 4321? Did Jane Smith want the 2X or the 3X? Did I remember to order toner? Did I pay for school lunches? Oh no, we’re out of toilet paper! Did we order shipping boxes? Oh gross, the cat just threw up in the girls' room!



There seems to be a lot of unspoken pressure and expectations on women to be super heroes. To be able to handle the career, the kids, the house, and still be pleasant and cheery all the time. But let’s be real, no one can be on it all of the time. We can’t pour from an empty cup. You can’t constantly drain your own energy trying to fuel everyone else's. I think that at our core, even though we understand this statement, it doesn’t seem to stop us from trying!


I don’t have all the answers, but as my cousin put it, sometimes you just need a really good cup of coffee. To sit down alone, enjoying something that’s just for you. Something that refills you, reenergizes you, and makes you excited about finishing that cup and getting back to life again.



My “cup of coffee” is to get out of my house at least once every three weeks to spend the day alone. I’ll get my eyelashes done, walk around Michael’s or Hobby Lobby and daydream about projects I know I’ll never make, and just have lunch with myself. On an even smaller scale that may look like me ordering product. This is almost always done at 2 AM with either the weekly church sermon or a 90’s Spotify playlist jamming and a cup of Oolong tea. I need that quiet, peaceful time to check in with myself. To remember what keeps me going and what I love about my life and where I am. To be hyper-focused on where I’m going.



What is your coffee? What is something that you can do this week big or small that’s just for you? Now believe me when I say a trip to the beach would most definitely rejuvenate the soul. But for most of us that's not realistic on a weekly or monthly basis. This week we challenge you to find your “cup of coffee.”  Large or small, lavish or budget friendly. What helps you to rejuvenate and reenergize? Comment ideas below! And share this blog! I know there’s so many women out there that need to hear this.

 

Chic Blessings my friends,

 

 

Contributor/Editor: Kristy Porter

17 comments

Gigi
Gigi
I have been working on staying positive since I joined the Rise Tribe . Ashley has been a force that shows me I am important and matter.
Melissa Wilson
Melissa Wilson
I’m so blessed to have my mother and her roommate, who my kids call Nana, in our daily lives. Between the 3 of us, we have plenty of “me” time and really none of us have to go it alone so we’re not ever too stressed out. They jump in with the kids whenever I need a break or vice versa. I’m blessed to have so much help with 3 kiddos! My “cup of coffee” is usually tv time with a snack and a mt dew or a quiet room with my daily Bible reading, both work well to refresh my mind. Thanks for posting about the blog! Love it! This was my first time checking it out.
Laura
Laura
I dont even know anymore. I’ll have to put more thought into this. I just know I have to keep going, giving up is not an option so I keep pushing no matter what is thrown at me. Because my daughter needs me!
Jennifer Tong
Jennifer Tong
I just love reading these blogs just as much as I love watching the show. Watching the show would have to be my time. I am very busy most if the time and usually watch it on the go, but it still give me the laughs and daily inner peace I need to remain sane.
Kerri
Kerri
Ashley, This is spot on. We all have our need for alone time to refill our cup. However some of us have a hard time because of our health or whatever is the problem. My cup refill is getting to watch you and a few other pages. You are one of my favorites. The group of girls you have working with you are just as great. Thanks for refilling my cup.
Clarine Arnold
Clarine Arnold
Ashley, I just rejuvenated myself today. A year ago my hubby passed away. I have spent the last year grieving. I even let my hair grow which I have never done. I am 79, 80 in July. Well, today I broke out and went to the beauty shop and cut it short again. Man, it feels good and rejuvenating.
Kelli Masi
Kelli Masi
I enjoy reading books , going tanning this time of year definitely helps me rejuvenate, and dancing gets me moving and feeling good love your blog
Carrie Goodemote
Carrie Goodemote
Wow such an inspiration about what is your coffee ,I think every women can benefit from hearing this.. sometimes i feel my coffee is full but not really getting anywhere in life, i try my hardest to accomplish something.but I decided to just take it slow and not get so stressed out in life.. so i really need to relax more.
Magda Cardona
Magda Cardona
I unfortunately feel like lately I’m running on empty. Going through a difficult time right now and finding time for me right now is not happening. I’m hoping that will change soon cuz don’t know how much longer I can keep running on empty.
Rachel Dieppa
Rachel Dieppa
ASHLEY YOU INSPIRE ME EVERYDAY TO GET UP AND DO MY DAILY ROUTINE .. SOMETIMES IT IS TRULY HSRD AS I SUFFER FROM HORRIBLE ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION… MAY IS A HORRIBLE MONTH FOR ME BUT I WILL PREVAIL AS I ALWAYS HAVE !!!! I AM THANKFUL FOR ALL YOU DO AND HOW YOU MAKE ME LAUGH !! LOVE YA GIRL .. RACHEL
Cheryll
Cheryll
I’m a mother of two grown children and grandmother of two. Ive been married to the same man yes the same man for 42 and counting years. Love my family. My family is most important to me. I get strength from God. Love watching you girls you make me laugh and buy new clothes😊
Darlene Izzo
Darlene Izzo
Lady! I often wonder how you are able to complete all the task that you do and then get a dozen women on a live show asking you questions! I love to socialize but I also take the time out like you mention above ! I love to just take a walk on the beach with my dog or when we are at our Mountain home hike through the Mountains! Great Write Up!
Kerri
Kerri
Just cleaning hubby is out of town all next week. So your show is my me time and I love it. Wish you did small lives during weekends. I could really use that by end of each nite Thanks for all your positive vibes.
Pam Hill
Pam Hill
My grandchildren rejuvenate me. I really think that without them i would have a bleak future. I thank God for them.
Tammy morehouse
Tammy morehouse
I don’t have children and my two stepsons are older and fairly self sufficient. My job is where I spend 8 plus hours a day taking care of people’s problems. I work for the Office for the Aging. I am an insurance counselor, problem solver and I am responsible to do home visits for folks in two counties in rural NY. My cup of Coffee is the time I have driving through these beautiful mountains singing at the top of my lungs. I feel good when I’m surrounded by nature.
Laura Sturgis
Laura Sturgis
Ashley you are a Beautiful person and you have a Beautiful family. I enjoy seeing you and buying from you its always a pleasure.
Dana Minski
Dana Minski
Because I am in a wheelchair and have medical issues every day I have someone here telling me its time for this or time to do that. I don’t even get to decide when or if I’m taking a bath or not. This blog gives me the encouragement to find a few minutes to do or not do exactly what I want to do. Thank you.

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