This week I have really been feeling the need to talk about self-care. I used to call myself an extrovert. Crowded room of people that I don’t know? Sure, sign me up! Friends dropping by unannounced? Come on in! A career on camera with hundreds of people watching? Absolutely! And honestly, none of that has changed. As I like to say, I LOVE TO PEOPLE!!!
What has changed is my appreciation and need for alone time. On any given day, I wake up early to get my kids up and ready for school. After they're off, I’ll go to the gym or head right into my office and start answering messages. I’ll pull pieces for a show, go live, and then usually answer more messages or, if Aunt Val forces me, stare at a few spreadsheets until my eyes go crossed. By then it's dinner time and I try to spend some time with my family, have another show, sleep and repeat.
(New Years 2019)
I am almost never alone. Don’t get me wrong, I am so grateful to be able to be so accessible to my family, and I love my team! But sometimes I need a break. A break from the 1000’s of tattles and questions that come from being a mom of six. A break from, was that number 1234 or 4321? Did Jane Smith want the 2X or the 3X? Did I remember to order toner? Did I pay for school lunches? Oh no, we’re out of toilet paper! Did we order shipping boxes? Oh gross, the cat just threw up in the girls' room!
There seems to be a lot of unspoken pressure and expectations on women to be super heroes. To be able to handle the career, the kids, the house, and still be pleasant and cheery all the time. But let’s be real, no one can be on it all of the time. We can’t pour from an empty cup. You can’t constantly drain your own energy trying to fuel everyone else's. I think that at our core, even though we understand this statement, it doesn’t seem to stop us from trying!
I don’t have all the answers, but as my cousin put it, sometimes you just need a really good cup of coffee. To sit down alone, enjoying something that’s just for you. Something that refills you, reenergizes you, and makes you excited about finishing that cup and getting back to life again.
My “cup of coffee” is to get out of my house at least once every three weeks to spend the day alone. I’ll get my eyelashes done, walk around Michael’s or Hobby Lobby and daydream about projects I know I’ll never make, and just have lunch with myself. On an even smaller scale that may look like me ordering product. This is almost always done at 2 AM with either the weekly church sermon or a 90’s Spotify playlist jamming and a cup of Oolong tea. I need that quiet, peaceful time to check in with myself. To remember what keeps me going and what I love about my life and where I am. To be hyper-focused on where I’m going.
What is your coffee? What is something that you can do this week big or small that’s just for you? Now believe me when I say a trip to the beach would most definitely rejuvenate the soul. But for most of us that's not realistic on a weekly or monthly basis. This week we challenge you to find your “cup of coffee.” Large or small, lavish or budget friendly. What helps you to rejuvenate and reenergize? Comment ideas below! And share this blog! I know there’s so many women out there that need to hear this.
Chic Blessings my friends,